It’s beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. It means the mind is not influenced and contaminated by society.
We all have a hole, a pit if you will. So deep that we have to fill it with “things” or someone. Maybe it’s a lost love, a yearning for someone to be there to hold your hand, to lay beside you, to tell you all these wonderful things to make you feel like you are the only person that ever mattered. You are just so goddamn special, you are beautiful inside and out, you are their everything. But its not enough. It never is. We as humans are wired to need a companion, a partner, a lover. We are led to believe in “The One”, that out there in this world there is someone waiting to be found and they are your other half. Your puzzle piece and once they are found all of your problems, your lonely heart, your fears, they will just disappear. You’re complete. Just like that. You’re true love has saved you from all your pain.
But look back, look at what caused you this pain in the first place. It was an Ex, an old friend, a crush that you could not have. Did you let it go? Did you keep those memories locked up, the way that person looked when they smiled, they way their lips felt on yours, how excited they got when they talked about something they loved or had discovered. You don’t remember how they beat you down with their words, how the first fight cuts you like a knife. You remember all of the beautiful breath taking moments and you re-play them over and over. Then one day you stop, unfortunately you’ve become infatuated with someone else. Someone who will do the exact same thing to you, but you may love them more than the last person, you maybe more compatible, more understanding, or is it the fact that you’ve learned your lesson and you are stronger than you were before? You refuse to let this person go, you will do anything for them just so you can have your void filled.
Before you move on to the next, take time to tend to the void. Fill it with things that make you happy, permanent things, changes to better yourself.
Read books, write poetry, draw, listen to music that makes your soul happy, cook something new, go out with friends, spend time with your family, take walks, stop and smell the roses for once. Take time to heal yourself. No one can fill it for you. You can’t rely on another to kiss your bruises and and bandage your wounds, you are the only one that can heal a broken heart. When you’re ready the right one will come along and it will be the right time. There will be no such thing as a void anymore.
The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.